According to Aileen Santos
of Relationships and Life Reinvention Coaching here in the Philippines, there
are 3 main stages of love we have to go through before we can readily say it's
REAL LOVE we are having.
Read on to determine at
what love stage are you in now and if you ever would make it through the finish
line to say you have found your TRUE LOVE!
I have enumerated the
stages and then tried to explain each in my own words and understanding) So,
here they are:
1. Love is a feeling. It is
in this stage where in we feel these butterflies in our stomach each time we
meet that someone special when we are in the throes of a newly-found love!
(feeling like high scholars having their first crushes/loves ) We may share the
same passion, dreams and ambitions and goals in life that makes the ride more
thrilling and we feel excited as the relationship progresses. (Honeymoon stage)
2. Love becomes a decision.
- You woke up one day to realize you and your significant other really don't
share the same passions and often have disagreement on things. You also got to
discover you're exact opposites of each other BUT you still hold on anyway
because of the mere fact that you chose to love him/her and his/her
IMPERFECTIONS. Like what they say "To love is a decision".
3. Love is fueled by
action. - In this stage, after you have totally accepted your partner for all
his/her worth, you actively become supportive of one another's passions and
dreams and being able to also understand his/her quirks and the stuff. Much
more like agreeing to disagree on some things without actually having cat
fights and the like.Effort is put into the relationship and not just mere words
or promises. Love needs to be given much effort to grow and is tested by time
and circumstances.
Aileen Santos stated and I
quoted " In the end, Real Love is made up of all three things: Feelings,
Decisions, and Actions. Just remember that in Real Love, it's your Decisions
that *lead* to your Actions, which in turn create your Feelings. And not the
other way around. ;-) The relationship you long for doesn't happen by chance,
by accident, by coincidence, or by luck. Because YOU have more influence over
Love than you think. ;-)"
We may need junk removal to remove any unwanted
"toxins" in our relationships in order to work it out 'til the end.
And if it is meant to be and would land you in a happy ever after, it would be
worth the effort!
If you will ask me, what
love stage we are in, I can readily say me and my Prince are on stage 3! We are
very supportive of each other's careers being both interested in the Arts and
Music. It's quite thrilling and fun to continuously discover each passing day
that we both love the same things (if not all) actually.
ELIZABETH ESGUERRA CASTILLO
Elizabeth Esguerra Castillo is
an award-winning, Internationally- Published Author/Poet and Professional
Writer from the Philippines. She published 2 international books, "Seasons
of Emotions" (UK), and "Inner Reflections of the Muse" (USA) and
a co-author to more than 60 international anthologies in the USA, Canada, UK,
India, France, Africa, and others. Elizabeth is a member of the American
Authors Association (AAA) and PEN International.
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