BETI BADHAO BETI
PADHAO
A video
clip is doing rounds in the fb
,whatsapp & other media --- of a
western clad girl getting teased
… ( contrary to the earlier video
of not getting noticed) , touched , disturbed or
impacted in different cities, across busy streets & teasers
coming back at intervals…. Protesters
almost nil. Across age groups people were
watching , but avoiding
protests from safe distance…. Of
late another stout girl comes up ,
decently dressed , & pounce upon the
miscreants & save this girl scantily clad.
In the
world of net , India is still hovering
on n around Love Zihaad
to ghar wapasi, Sadvis that preach for Indian ladies breeding 4
raamjado sons each….A tiny light
emerges from the boxing star sisters –the Haryana duo becoming mouthpieces n ambassadors of
Indian steel giant. Recall of the old golden Tata Steel days harboring Bachendri, Bula, Soma…?
In 2015
too, across the globe, global
business leaders do not want to
dole out the position of sublime
importance to the fairer
sex…. Nor in Oscar or in box office or in Filmfare, awards
are doled out to women-directed
& women –centric movies,,, so few , but not so precious.
Political reasons un-debated, Lila Samson & Sujatha Singh both have to hand out the batton to stronger male contenders , nay, counterparts.
We fail to get in the play n film arena a plethora of lady architects.
And
when Bengalees pride in their so-called century old
renaissance theory of eliticism n aristocratic progressivism , they
can take a look
at the 18th rank in
woman per man ratio, way below Kerala ,
TN, AP, Karnataka --- the rich
quadrangle of Sothern India
, a
desperately growing
Chhattisgarh, 92% literate Mizoram
, even the poorer & more non descript Lakshadweep, Odisha, & Assam.
Why? A Bengal
reeled under Bengalee Bhadralok CPIM
CM Jyoti Basu / Budhadev
Bhattacharjee has got a lady CM at last , who is
ruling with iron fist stronger
than Dalit Maya Memsaab , but unlike the iron lady of South Ms Jayalalitha , her state
is still reeling for a space of oxygen in women’s
equality. Jaya amma’s state
is standing far above the rest of the lady ruled
states , especially Bihar under
Ravdih Devi made just a mockery of
social engg. Because Mamta is more bent upon her political survival with
the aids from repressive mollahs within
& out of WB.
Just 1 Arundhati Bhattacharjee, 1 Sikha Sharma , 1
Naina Lal Kidwai , 1 Chanda Kochhar,
1 Chitra Ramkrishna , 1 Kiran Mazumdar
Shaw,1 Sulajja Motwani are not sufficient. The ascent
to board power / board seat
as a compulsion in Companies Act
2013 is yet to be tested as to the
real induction of independent talents.
For decades , the better halves of Birlas, Ambanis , Jindals , Wadias, Reddys
& Godrejs have
ornamented the ceremonial
posts the way Sheikh Hassina or
Begum Khaleda Zia has got the heiring to the throne . What is vastly needed is the spooling of a
pool of talents, so sharp , so
independent, so unique ….. How many Aparna Sens are there in our skies? We
have gracious Nandita Dases judging
Cannes winning on the spree of Firaq, or
Mother –daughter duos of Padmasees, Prabhakars & Sarabhais, but often over a
shorter horizon. We could
better want a more
lasting deal…..
Newer
& newer breeds of girls
are coming up in acting in new
genre of films , trying to do some
meaningful roles but fading off
soon. Very few Kangana Ranawats can stay put;
across Tollygonge, Bollywood, Tollywood, Sandalwood n Mollywood so many fading sudden-stars go down to casting couch &
deplete to male-centric
exhibitionist roles…….
In fact,
at left-centric elite
level also, there is
a starking need to redraw a
much impetus-yielding role
of ladies, coming up as Erin
Brukoviches & not just Helan Kellars
/ Mother Terressas. Right of the
center, theatre to film to literature
---the genius need
a very definitive role,
more than that of a
mother India or an NGO
runner lady-corporate, or a
maa-bahu-beti poltical jargon,
or a
caring wife to an aspiring honcho.
2015 demands not the pretty Chineese girls
preyed by ugly Billionaires,
but the strong leaders, who, even from the confines of slave trade can
establish Durbar samiti
& Usha Coop Bank as heroic efforts, who—after
completing engg from premiers like IITs or MBA
from IIMs , do not go for corporate
jobs but go in for start ups , with
male / female partners , mostly
of the same breed n genre. It is
the growing craving for either Ms
Sangeeta Jindal or Ananya Birla
to carve a niche for themselves,
much distant from the limelight of their
husbands / dads , be it Art of Microfinance, but which grows off own caliber n own
perseverance n dedicated love for the
subject independent in thought
process from what has bred them , in the big houses…..
Narendra Modiji
has brought in several novel schemes & implemented several UPA schemes with
twisted dimensions. Unfortunately this Man ki baat of his
is not yet so preached n
proclaimed, nor so widely publicized .
Nor the I Tax benefit
given to the related scheme is at all enthusiastic. Forget exceptions… promoters to CEOs to
technocrats to Bureaucrats all
swirl in the cobwebs of dowries
& women-bashing as a favorite sadism in some form or other
, n
saddest part is that the top echelons that mahadalit / ST rise in political hierarchy in states
like Bihar n Jharkhand--- they
feel their birth rights to enjoy bed
warmth of married govt servants , & their off springs misuse power the way any Brahmin / Thakur / Rajput / Bhumihar power-center’s son / son in law do that with the full knowledge of injustice
meted out to their wives
at homes ( treated worse than
their Keeps at brothels / rented flats).
Beti
Padhao is essentially a message on women’s lib…. A jibe at
girls declining to sit in
marriages at 14—16, for them to become self –helped through rooftop / other marginal
garden farming ( Bengal leads the way)
, a soch to become equal / better than
the life’s companion for the
girl. Wherein meaningful working / livelihood is not an avoidable option but a
way of life, a way to stay n think independent. Beti
padhao is a message for
hundreds of students, lecturers , officers
& managers n beyond belonging to fairer sex , being taken for a ride
by the stronger sex to thrash to bed
in return for some deserving
results , eg PhDs, Scholarships
etc etc. Beti padhao is also about
the freedom & liberation of a
girl from the subjugation of repeated sexual assaults in the hands of a male / female relative/ neighbor /
close friend / other offenders
coming from lower, similar or
older age group / generation.
Because education is all about
this liberation , across religious
strata, across social milieu,
across all social heterogenic of demography.
Come this
spring, this 8th March should
be a soul search engine for all
girls---- to think liberal & grow up, break the jinx & lead the way
rationally…. Not to be tortured
without gain by any atrocious
monster in family / vicinity / friendship, nor
for gain of any sort whatsoever ,
unless that stake her claim in a society better than
an upscale giglo. Let the
year of 2015 be not
just a
celebration of some
girls bashing women-baiters n
women –teasers, but a
holistic society of
girls to old ladies singing
liberation , emancipation &
BDSM only for
own pleasure .
Dubai is
a city much liberated & safe for
girls than Delhi, where , irrespective of skirt length , a girl is preyed , especially if she is from NE.
Chennai is a conservative city but fascinatingly indulging in sadistic torture of
liberating womenfolk. Mumbai , Kolkata & Bangalore are marginally safer , but
as states, progressive WB shares dias with equally progressive Kerala
& much – matrimonial Assam. Andhra stands equal as also backward
Rajasthan , but Odissa falls back
like so very repressive J&K. Despite
all military oppressions, Manipur stands
tallest in India.
Beti badhao is
an awareness to move away from
khaap bondage. Even Manipur ,
known for its lesser
tolerance of women’s repressions, is
way behind WB in
female feticide. J&K to , UK,
UP, Bihar , Tribal JH , southwards up
to Goa
fall in this trap of such paternal malice . Beti badhao starts
from Beti bachao & the hymn is to discover the asset in a
girl instead of a liability .
And that is possible only when the European Renaissance experience gets imbibed into
the souls of the
manubaadis & Mussalmans alike
, who both want
the girls to be dictated by purdah rules .
This is a list of the States and Union territories of India ranked in order of sex ratio for the years 2001 and 2011. Here, sex ratio is expressed as the
number of women per thousand men in a given population at a given time. Data
are per the Census of India 2001[2] and provisional census totals for 2011[3][4] results. As of 2011, Kerala has the
highest sex ratio while Haryana has the lowest sex ratio among states and Daman & Diu has the lowest among all states and territories.
Rank
|
State
|
Sex Ratio 2011
|
Sex Ratio 2001
|
Sex Ratio Change 2001 to 2011
|
1
|
1,084
|
1,058
|
+26
|
|
2
|
1,038
|
1,001
|
(not meaningful)
|
|
3
|
995
|
986
|
+9
|
|
4
|
992
|
978
|
+14
|
|
5
|
991
|
990
|
+1
|
|
6
|
987
|
978
|
+9
|
|
7
|
986
|
975
|
+11
|
|
8
|
978
|
972
|
+6
|
|
9
|
975
|
938
|
+37
|
|
10
|
974
|
970
|
+4
|
|
11
|
968
|
964
|
+4
|
|
12
|
968
|
960
|
+8
|
|
13
|
963
|
964
|
-1
|
|
14
|
961
|
950
|
+11
|
|
15
|
954
|
932
|
+22
|
|
16
|
946
|
947
|
-1
|
|
17
|
947
|
941
|
+6
|
|
18
|
947
|
934
|
+13
|
|
19
|
931
|
909
|
+22
|
|
20
|
930
|
920
|
+10
|
|
21
|
926
|
922
|
+4
|
|
22
|
925
|
922
|
+3
|
|
23
|
920
|
901
|
+19
|
|
24
|
918
|
921
|
-3
|
|
25
|
916
|
921
|
-5
|
|
26
|
908
|
898
|
+10
|
|
27
|
893
|
874
|
+19
|
|
28
|
889
|
875
|
+14
|
|
29
|
883
|
900
|
-17
|
|
30
|
878
|
846
|
+32
|
|
31
|
877
|
861
|
+16
|
|
32
|
866
|
821
|
+45
|
|
33
|
818
|
773
|
+45
|
|
34
|
775
|
811
|
-36
|
|
35
|
618
|
709
|
-91
|
|
*
|
Total average
|
943
|
933
|
+10
|
This is a list of
the States and Union
territories of India ranked in order of average sex ratio at birth for the three years 2010, 2011, and
2012, expressed as the number of women per thousand men.[1]
Rank
|
State
|
Women per 1000 men - 2012
|
1
|
1084
|
|
2
|
979
|
|
3
|
950
|
|
4
|
948
|
|
5
|
944
|
|
6
|
939
|
|
7
|
928
|
|
8
|
922
|
|
9
|
921
|
|
10
|
914
|
|
11
|
918
|
|
12
|
909
|
|
12
|
909
|
|
13
|
896
|
|
14
|
895
|
|
15
|
893
|
|
16
|
884
|
|
17
|
874
|
|
18
|
863
|
|
19
|
857
|
|
*
|
Total
average
|
908
|
State / UT
|
Boys (0-1 age)
2011 Census[31] |
Girls (0-1 age)
2011 Census[31] |
Sex ratio
(Boys per 100 girls) |
India
|
10,633,298
|
9,677,936
|
109.9
|
JAMMU &
KASHMIR
|
154,761
|
120,551
|
128.4
|
HARYANA
|
254,326
|
212,408
|
119.7
|
PUNJAB
|
226,929
|
193,021
|
117.6
|
UTTARAKHAND
|
92,117
|
80,649
|
114.2
|
DELHI
|
135,801
|
118,896
|
114.2
|
MAHARASHTRA
|
946,095
|
829,465
|
114.1
|
LAKSHADWEEP
|
593
|
522
|
114.0
|
RAJASTHAN
|
722,108
|
635,198
|
113.7
|
GUJARAT
|
510,124
|
450,743
|
113.2
|
UTTAR
PRADESH
|
1,844,947
|
1,655,612
|
111.4
|
CHANDIGARH
|
8,283
|
7,449
|
111.2
|
DAMAN &
DIU
|
1,675
|
1,508
|
111.1
|
BIHAR
|
1,057,050
|
957,907
|
110.3
|
HIMACHAL
PRADESH
|
53,261
|
48,574
|
109.6
|
MADHYA
PRADESH
|
733,148
|
677,139
|
108.3
|
GOA
|
9,868
|
9,171
|
107.6
|
JHARKHAND
|
323,923
|
301,266
|
107.5
|
MANIPUR
|
22,852
|
21,326
|
107.2
|
ANDHRA
PRADESH
|
626,538
|
588,309
|
106.5
|
TAMIL NADU
|
518,251
|
486,720
|
106.5
|
ODISHA
|
345,960
|
324,949
|
106.5
|
DADRA &
NAGAR HAVELI
|
3,181
|
3,013
|
105.6
|
WEST BENGAL
|
658,033
|
624,760
|
105.0
|
KARNATAKA
|
478,346
|
455,299
|
105.1
|
ASSAM
|
280,888
|
267,962
|
104.8
|
NAGALAND
|
17,103
|
16,361
|
104.5
|
SIKKIM
|
3,905
|
3,744
|
104.3
|
CHHATTISGARH
|
253,745
|
244,497
|
103.8
|
TRIPURA
|
28,650
|
27,625
|
103.7
|
MEGHALAYA
|
41,353
|
39,940
|
103.5
|
ARUNACHAL
PRADESH
|
11,799
|
11,430
|
103.2
|
ANDAMAN
& NICOBAR ISLANDS
|
2,727
|
2,651
|
102.9
|
KERALA
|
243,852
|
238,489
|
102.2
|
PUDUCHERRY
|
9,089
|
8,900
|
102.1
|
MIZORAM
|
12,017
|
11,882
|
101.1
|
[ANINDA
GHOSE]
On International Women's Day, while the rest of India debated the validity of a monster problem over a documentary on India's most horrible rape in recent times, patriarchy was flexing its arms elsewhere in Tamil Nadu.
ReplyDeleteFour men, of the unheard group, Hindu Illaignar Sena (Hindu Youth Army) attacked a television channel's office in Chennai. The reason: the channel had circulated promotional news that on International Women's Day they would telecast a special programme that would discuss the relevance of the thaali (mangalsutra in Tamil). The four hurled crude bombs in a bid to silence the channel.
Why would the men of Tamil Nadu worry about a discussion on the thaali? The thaali is a wedding ornament. The wedding chain washed with auspicious turmeric and gold is tied by the man on his wife's neck signifying their lifelong bond. Many modern Tamil women are increasingly eschewing the ornament; they do not uphold the sacred myths around it -- "a golden band of protection for a woman's chastity."
In a bid to uphold its sanctity the thaali has often been vulgarized and abused in Tamil cinema. Many of us have grown up on Tamil films where a man tied a thaali to the woman after raping her to make her 'honourable'; forcibly tied a thaali to suppress a woman into marriage; or scenes where villains menacingly swung the thaali frightening a hapless heroine, waiting to be rescued by the hero.
Most married Tamil women continue to wear the thaali around their necks despite its rising absence among modern Tamil women at home and elsewhere. It signifies to the world that a woman is taken and belongs to a man. Dravidian activists invoke history of the Rationalist Movement of the 1920s saying the 'self respect' weddings of Dravidian political activists rejected rituals and did not mention the tying of the thaali as necessary by the groom. There is a loud debate about the century the thaali originated and how ancient, culturally it is in Tamil Nadu.
The March 8 thaali incident is the latest in a series of incidents emanating from the state that point to disturbing aspects of rogue patriarchy where casteism and misogyny and sexuality are evident.
ReplyDelete• On March 12, a policeman from Madurai, beat and assaulted his daughter on the streets of Bengaluru. His anger was that she had behaved in a 'dishonourable fashion' by hanging out with a boyfriend.
• A fortnight ago came the news that Tamil writer Puliyur Murugesan was attacked and assaulted by a rogue mob in Karur. While the incident was spearheaded by members of a community attacking him for perceived insults to their caste, the reason involved gender. Murugesan's short story, Balachandran Enroru Peyarum Enakku Undu, dealt with alternate sexuality, the illicit sexual coercion a wife is subjected to by her father-in-law, with no protection from her homosexual husband. This is the land whose 2000-year-old Sangam poetry are verses of beauty and power that also deal with sexuality with a self-assuredness its contemporary citizens seems wary of.
• A month before there was Perumal Murugan. A feted writer and academician, he was hounded and threatened to the point of silence following Hindu groups taking offence to his novel. Madhorubagan dealt with the ancient practice, among a community in Western Tamil Nadu, which allows married women to violate marital sexual fidelity for the sake of progeny. The obvious reason for violence against Murugan was he insulted a certain caste. But the simmering aspect of female agency and sexual proclivity outside of marriage that brought dishonour to the community went unsaid.
• Prominent writer B Jeyamohan created a controversy in Tamil literary circles in June 2014, when he claimed that Tamil media was partial to women writers and featured them despite their lack of literary merit, unlike the male writers with their elephantine literary talents. He gruffly agreed to an apology with rising condemnation by many female writers.
• Poet and activist Meena Kandasamy has been trolled for her vocal views on caste and gender. She even received threats of 'acid attacks' and 'gang-rape' on Twitter in 2013. Poet Salma who wrote of the female body and the pressure of marriage and the rigidity of sexuality within marriages, received condemnation from her community elders.
• Since the turn of the 21st century, the infamy of filing 22 cases of cultural denigration filed against actress Khushboo in Chennai in 2005, for her comments that premarital sex for women is not taboo, continues to dog the state.
While most of these cases are held up as instances of free speech being muzzled, or attack on creativity and debate in the state, the worrying aspect is almost all of these acts of violence and protests stem from patriarchal fear. Despite the increase in literacy, the lack of educated and informed minds erupts over clashes with modern ideas of female voices and permissive sexuality.
A culture that worships machismo and fosters a cult of masculinity raises its ugly head despite the many social indices of prosperity and empowerment. The glitzy superhero movies continue to hold up women as symbols of Tamil pride and honour, both of which seek to control female sexuality.
And those who speak of the beauty and universality of Tamil culture today seem to have forgotten the glorious verse of that modern feminist Bharati who said, "Let us reject any dogma that subjugates women."