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UTSAV DATTA

SONGSOPTOK THE WRITERS BLOG | 7/15/2015 |



Divorce is the tragic suicide of a marriage that kills the hopes and dreams, not only of the partners, but also of the children. It means dissolution of the marital bond. Technically speaking, divorce means a decree of dissolution of marriage. Divorce is a process through which marital bond ceases to be in existence as per law and the couple can no longer be called the husband or the wife.

Divorce was once a social stigma, now it has become increasingly popular in recent years. It is seen that married couples are walking away from their marriages for varied reasons. Earlier, there were very few cases of divorce and the main causes were adultery and domestic violence. In most cases, the women continued with their broken marriage for the sake of fear, kids and money. But, nowadays, women do not hesitate to call off their marriages. The rising trend is seen not only in the metropolises but also in the semi-urban and smaller cities, including the rural areas, where there may not be divorce in legal terms but women are seen living separately.

There are as many causes for divorce as there are people who divorce. Divorce itself is both a cause and an effect. There are many factors that contribute to divorce, such as Adultery : When either of the two is involved in sexual relationship outside marriage.Cruelty: When the man or the woman is subjected to any kind of physical and mental injury.Desertion: When one partner abandons the other for at least a period of two years. Conversion: Forced conversion of religion.Mental disorder: If one partner suffers from mental disorder/insanity or from a serious communicable diseases.Leprosy : If one of the partners suffers from incurable form of leprosy.Renunciation: If a spouse renounces all worldly affairs.Conjugal rights: Failure in observing conjugal rights for 2 years or more.

The divorce rate in India has been increasing since 1960. Change in attitudes towards divorce is a part of the process of secularization in Indian society. Secularization is nothing but the declining influence of religion. Marriage in traditional Hindu society was considered as a sacred bond. Hinduism insisted that the bond of marriage is not only for this life, but for many lives to come. But gradually Hindus have started taking less rigid view in this regard due to their secular beliefs and values.

Till 1990 or up to 2000, the basic perceptions were, a divorced woman is means she is a liberated women and a divorced men means he is a wife beater/abuser, thanks to special law 498A in 1983. But 2000 onwards the same got changed and the society slowly accepted that A divorced men also can be victims of Domestic violence in terms of financial abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse , physical abuse.

Marriage is an institution which is important for the sustenance of the structure of the society. No two humans are same. There are always the positive and negative points of an individual. First of all, it is important to make a wise decision when one is getting married. Sincere efforts to make the marriage flourish should be done. And, in case, everything seems to fall apart, it is always better to let the things rest in peace and start the life afresh.

[UTSAV DATTA]


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